I want to set a precedence early on with this blog. I have some ideas on what I want to write about from day to day (though I may not post an entry every day) based on what is and had happened to me. There is a lot that I want to cover and a lot I want to get out so that others can use it, hopefully, in a way that is able to assist them. Rarely though will I know for sure what I'm going to write about until I sit down and start the blog. I don't want readers to get the idea that my next post is going to be about 'how red balloons actually make boys go faster' or 'what I did to make sure my son turned out to be city worker'. There may be times that I do give an indication on what I'm going to post the next time around but that will be a rare occasion and odds are it will only happen if there is something that I really feel needs to be covered in a near immediate fashion.
Tooth Fairy
Last night I got to play Tooth Fairy for the first time. It wasn't for his first lost tooth though, his first tooth was lost the beginning of July when he was visiting my sister and her boyfriend for a week and he happened to swallow it. This time around the tooth came right out in his breakfast cereal so there was no problems in that area, we had a tooth to exchange for money.
The problem with being the Tooth Fairy, I find, is the sneaky part. Creeping into your kids room and switching a tooth in exchange for money. Granted the kid is excited about what they get the next morning but the whole process seems a little strange. Does it not seem odd for a small woman, a fairy, to steal into a child's room at night and take their teeth away to some mysterious fate and in exchange the kids is left some pocket change.
There is that inevitable question, what does the tooth fairy do with the teeth.
I've heard some imaginative and inventive answers, I've not had to come up with an answer yet since the question hasn't been asked to me. Do I know what I would answer, when I am asked? Not yet and not really, I'll make it up as I go along.
Was I happy to be able to be the tooth fairy for my little guy?
For sure. It's exciting to see how such little things can matter and really make an impact on them as they grow and get older. At some point he'll find out the truth and realize that it was made-up kid stuff but until then its something exciting he gets to be part of and all he has to do is grow.
An Old Man
This is something that falls in a bridge between Forward and Backward (see previous post). The old man that I'm speaking of is my boss at work, Bud. He's an excellent man to talk to because of his life experience and people skills. At 76 years old he's still going strong and at this point could easily match people half his age in a lot of ways.
Why am I bringing up Bud in this blog?
Because I've talked to him about my current situation. He's aware of the point I am in within my life and the obstacles I have ahead of me as well as behind me. He's aware of what I went through with my ex-wife as well as what she is doing at this point forward. I've gotten some interesting and curious insights from him, at the same time he's given me areas to look into and think about that I otherwise would have overlooked had I not had the chance to interact with him. My main reason for bringing him up though is because of something that happened yesterday, while talking with him, that made me think a little in a new direction.
How things have changed between older and newer generations when it comes to relationships and marriage.
Along the subject of unfaithful spouse (obviously my ex-wife was the topic of discussion, at this point I want to point out it was a conversation about how it happened and why she might have done it, it wasn't a negative conversation along the lines of "I hate her...she's evil", more of a philosophical discussion on the topic).
Bud made it clear that if there was even the slightest indication, to him, that his wife had ever cheated on him, just the slightest, he would have been up and gone in a second. To me that seems a little harsh and quick to act. In my mind that would be the exact reason a relationship would fall apart, something happening that may actually be mistaken by one party and the whole thing just implodes.
In my marriage there was a lay over period, a working point where I tried to gather as much information as I could to ensure that things weren't mistaken, that I wasn't getting the wrong in incorrect information, that I wasn't just linking things together that shouldn't have actually have been linked together because of paranoia.
That's where I saw a difference, at least between myself and Bud. He's a very strong individual and very driven to be active and keep himself going, for the most part I am too, in different ways than him but with the same overall goals. I know that I'm more laid back and contemplative toward my goals where he is very push to get to it and its clearly worked for him.
I'm happy that I took the time to look into what was happening with my ex-wife, I didn't like a lot of what I found but it erased a lot of the questions and unsurity (I don't think that's a real word) that I had when I confronted her about what was going on and allowed me to clearly decide on my next steps forward.
My approach may not have been for everyone but I'm glad I took it.
For now.
Peace,
ClX
Tooth Fairy
Last night I got to play Tooth Fairy for the first time. It wasn't for his first lost tooth though, his first tooth was lost the beginning of July when he was visiting my sister and her boyfriend for a week and he happened to swallow it. This time around the tooth came right out in his breakfast cereal so there was no problems in that area, we had a tooth to exchange for money.
The problem with being the Tooth Fairy, I find, is the sneaky part. Creeping into your kids room and switching a tooth in exchange for money. Granted the kid is excited about what they get the next morning but the whole process seems a little strange. Does it not seem odd for a small woman, a fairy, to steal into a child's room at night and take their teeth away to some mysterious fate and in exchange the kids is left some pocket change.
There is that inevitable question, what does the tooth fairy do with the teeth.
I've heard some imaginative and inventive answers, I've not had to come up with an answer yet since the question hasn't been asked to me. Do I know what I would answer, when I am asked? Not yet and not really, I'll make it up as I go along.
Was I happy to be able to be the tooth fairy for my little guy?
For sure. It's exciting to see how such little things can matter and really make an impact on them as they grow and get older. At some point he'll find out the truth and realize that it was made-up kid stuff but until then its something exciting he gets to be part of and all he has to do is grow.
An Old Man
This is something that falls in a bridge between Forward and Backward (see previous post). The old man that I'm speaking of is my boss at work, Bud. He's an excellent man to talk to because of his life experience and people skills. At 76 years old he's still going strong and at this point could easily match people half his age in a lot of ways.
Why am I bringing up Bud in this blog?
Because I've talked to him about my current situation. He's aware of the point I am in within my life and the obstacles I have ahead of me as well as behind me. He's aware of what I went through with my ex-wife as well as what she is doing at this point forward. I've gotten some interesting and curious insights from him, at the same time he's given me areas to look into and think about that I otherwise would have overlooked had I not had the chance to interact with him. My main reason for bringing him up though is because of something that happened yesterday, while talking with him, that made me think a little in a new direction.
How things have changed between older and newer generations when it comes to relationships and marriage.
Along the subject of unfaithful spouse (obviously my ex-wife was the topic of discussion, at this point I want to point out it was a conversation about how it happened and why she might have done it, it wasn't a negative conversation along the lines of "I hate her...she's evil", more of a philosophical discussion on the topic).
Bud made it clear that if there was even the slightest indication, to him, that his wife had ever cheated on him, just the slightest, he would have been up and gone in a second. To me that seems a little harsh and quick to act. In my mind that would be the exact reason a relationship would fall apart, something happening that may actually be mistaken by one party and the whole thing just implodes.
In my marriage there was a lay over period, a working point where I tried to gather as much information as I could to ensure that things weren't mistaken, that I wasn't getting the wrong in incorrect information, that I wasn't just linking things together that shouldn't have actually have been linked together because of paranoia.
That's where I saw a difference, at least between myself and Bud. He's a very strong individual and very driven to be active and keep himself going, for the most part I am too, in different ways than him but with the same overall goals. I know that I'm more laid back and contemplative toward my goals where he is very push to get to it and its clearly worked for him.
I'm happy that I took the time to look into what was happening with my ex-wife, I didn't like a lot of what I found but it erased a lot of the questions and unsurity (I don't think that's a real word) that I had when I confronted her about what was going on and allowed me to clearly decide on my next steps forward.
My approach may not have been for everyone but I'm glad I took it.
For now.
Peace,
ClX
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